Right well, we all lost it a bit back there right? or was it just me.
Unfortunately between moving house, finishing my MA, and the deep, deep pool that is applying to jobs, I got a bit far from home there.
BUT- we are back. We are hopeful and we are ready to get posting about real life again. With the pure stress that is the current socio-political climate and personal life getting in the way it really felt like writing was just screaming into the void. Which is great, until it develops alongside that darkness that you feel trying to pull you in.
So excuses out the way!
How are we all doing?
We started a new year, now that does not mean you have to become this new person who suddenly has it all together. Don’t get me wrong it is tempting, but nobody has it together straight after Christmas.
Lets at least start small. I started a sourdough starter in 2025, and its time to get her back out the fridge so I can continue my attempts to perfect sourdough loaves.
I never bother with new year resolutions anymore, I think they’re more unhealthy than they are healthy. Why start a process or journey just because it’s a new year? What makes this 24hr different to the previous 365, other than the standard that society put in place to date the days, name the months, and number the years.
Start on an odd number. Start in the middle of the week. Make that change when you are ready. Not when a made up calendar tells you.
Starting a new year also warrants a reflection on the previous 12 months.
In 2025 I moved house, out of student property and into rentals. Getting approved, redecorating, buying actual furniture and feeling like a ‘real’ adult. I love making a space my own, and with a 3 bed house there’s a lot of space to work with. With that came a LOT of stress, but the feeling of transforming whatever chaos the previous tenants left into something I get compliments for is like no other.
I finished my Masters, well I spent most of this year doing my dissertation. 15,000 words can really be a drag, but I decided to make my life harder by doing three methodologies that brought upon me possibly too much data to analyse. But, again all the stress is worthwhile as I graduate in April with a distinction.
Getting sent pictures of this lil guy got me through most of this year:
I got to explore some amazing places like Amsterdam, Portugal, and Brussels. Holidays are something that help push through the stress and hard work through most the year. I think something about knowing you have time away from normality and exploring other cultures will always drive me to push through the stress of it all.
Countless days and nights of gigs, spending time with friends, meeting new people I could not imagine my life without.
But there will always be things that make you feel like the year was not your year. Losing people you care about, arguments, finding out your family voted Reform. You know those things that make you sick in the pits of your stomach. But life is full of ups and downs.
So remember, if somethings going wrong and it feels like 2027 might have to be your year, know that life is not linear.
The Femme Files 