An exploration of how friendships evolve as people grow and their priorities change.
I feel as though I have a weird outlook on friendships, especially since becoming a real adult, not that I feel like one most of the time.
The social norm of borderline harassing your friends to talk every day and meet up every week is genuinely one of the most insane things to me. Yet as a teen this was normal, if your friend didn’t reply to you after an hour, they hate you and you become mortal enemies.
This just does not work as a woman in your 20’s, but nobody expects that from you.
We spoke to Aiesha, a Facilitator of change, motivation, inner growth and mental wellness. She runs a coaching business called Aiesha Weste Coaching, ‘we take people from where they are to where they want to be.’
“Authentic female friendships thrive when rooted in vulnerability, mutual respect, and genuine support. Instead of seeking perfection, celebrate connection—even in its imperfect, messy moments.”
Aiesha
I consider my best friends those I haven’t seen in months, have had maybe two conversations with recently and live miles away. Yet we still know we are besties. Life just gets in the way.
The hardest thing about friendships in this era of your life is making new friends, “Where am i supposed to meet new people? How do i make the first move toward friendships rather than just coming off as nice” you might find yourself asking.
It’s so terrifying to send someone a message online, your head might fill with worry and even more questions like, what if this comes off super creepy, what if they aren’t interested in making friends?
It’s like we are expected to make friends in school and keep them forever, but we all grow apart eventually, or we grow together. Especially with how much we change from leaving school at 16 to adulthood in our 20’s.
If your friendship survives the many lives you live between turning 16 and turning 21, you know you can make it through anything.
Friendships depend on one thing only; do you grow together, or do you grow apart?
The Femme Files 
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